5.9.2015 Beauty and Courage

posted May 9, 2015, 7:35 AM by C Hamlin-Krout   [ updated Apr 20, 2016, 10:44 AM ]
Certain diseases carry a social stigma with them, making them uncool and totally the last thing we ask for in life. Young girls are so vulnerable to cool.  When "food" becomes the poison rather than "drugs" or "alcohol", well how do we 12-step that? Or make recovery "cool"? Food combined with our self-image can cause "nourishment" to become stressful and tainted. Eating disorders are NOT choices or phases, they ARE an illness that can cause serious medical complications, not to mention disrupted friendships, and isolation. The beautiful thing is that full recovery is very possible with professional trained help, ongoing support, and guidance.

When women use their power of purse, our purchase power alone can raise awareness to create change within the fashion, music, and movie industries allowing new and healthier cultural paradigms to flourish. This disease can strike women (and men) at any age, but our young girls are not fully empowered at 12 years old, they are at an incredibly vulnerable stage in their life development, and need us to step up.  We are Vessels of life that come in many varied, and uniquely beautiful shapes. 

I invite you to step up with me in support of young girls falling prey to eating disorders.  I felt shock mixed with fear when I learned of many young girls' struggle, fight, return to wellness, and stumble in their recovery process. Stumbling on the new path to recovery is not unusual and can be part of the recovery process for many. After research, I learned this illness can happen to any of us at any time in our life, it holds no prejudices.  Responsible awareness is also a part of recovery as many young girls are stepping up and sharing their stories-of-hope to spark and inspire parents and their daughters.  Parents and community play a much needed role in the process of healing and recovery, not just for young girls, but for everyone.

Lynn Grefe (pronounced "grief"), organized a national campaign to promote education and treatment for eating disorders, and to convince women whom teenage girls idolize, like fashion models, that being too thin can be fatal.  In 2003 she became president and chief executive of NEDA Feeding Hope, a non-profit that seeks to raise awareness.  Recently Lynn passed away from lung cancer, her daughter who was diagnosed with an eating disorder at 19 said, "my mother would like people to know, that if her own daughter can do that(recover), then anyone can."  My life experience has shown me over and over again that my true friends want what is best for me, and totally support me in my well being.  More than anything, I am writing this piece for girls who believe they have no support or no hope,I want you more to trust/believe that there is a path for you...Writing these words is my way of placing my hands between the shoulder blades of those who feel alone, and letting them know there is hope, there is community, there is a place.  

Tomorrow is Mother's Day, and when we celebrate from deep within the chambers of our heart, it becomes sacred. 
May we all hear the silent cries from our young, the cries that go unseen before our eyes.

685., I
What we call  beginning is often
the end
and to make an end is to make a 
The end is where we start from.
-T.S. Eliot, Excerpt from, "Little Gidding" from the Four Quartets, Singing the Living Tradition, Unitarian Hymnal

Thank you Austin Kleon for blogging about Eliot's beautiful work!